Guest bogger Amie Adcock is an ACE certified Group Fitness Instructor and Personal Trainer in Philadelphia. She is currently pursuing her Wellness Coaching certification and writes fitness and nutrition articles for several sites. You can read more about Amie on her website, The Life of an Exercise Nut. Amie is also one of two winners of DietsInReview.com’s FitBloggin’ contest.
They say opposites attract, however, this can sometimes lead to undesirable results. You may want to get up and go to the gym, but you stay on the couch because your partner wants you to watch another episode of your favorite TV show. When out to dinner, you know the grilled chicken and mixed veggies is a healthier option, but you are encouraged to order the pasta with cream sauce because you need to “live a little.”
If you’re a health nut and your spouse isn’t, it’s easy to pick up on some of his unfavorable habits, which can leave you worse off. While a cheat every now and then is fine, allowing your spouse to constantly influence poor health decisions on you just because he isn’t as health-conscious is going to wreck havoc on your waistline. The trick is to work together, not against each other.
Explain that while you enjoy kicking back and letting loose sometimes, you need to stay on track. Make a deal that he won’t offer you fattening snacks when you watch TV and will give you a pep-talk to workout together when you feel tired. Try cooking together. He’ll be more likely to eat the healthy meal if it’s something he had a hand in creating. Promising to use encouraging words can also inspire you to stay on track. It’s amazing what “you can do it” or “I’m proud of you” can do for your mood.
If your spouse has any concerns with these changes, talk to each other and compromise. Indulging in dessert or skipping the gym every now and then is perfectly fine, and can even help the two of you to feel more comfortable. Relationships take work, and feeling good about you can help to keep that spark going. Just make sure you stay true to yourself and be healthy for you.
You deserve it!
February 20th, 2010